Now that I’m one, I’m developing a sense of all the crazy things moms do to give their kids everything they can.
I remember in middle school, begging my mom for Nikes. This feels stupid and selfish now because I don’t think a kid needs a $100 pair of sneakers.
My kid will probably beg for similar items & I’ll have to give him a piece of my mind. I’ll probably cave in the end but oh, he’ll have to endure a rant about hard work first.
I guess that’s what a carefree childhood is about. Your sense of financial responsibility and earning is not developed; you just know you need money to buy stuff. The kid doesn’t have money & the parent usually has some ability to acquire the stuff the kid wants. There hopefully isn’t much of a worry for the child because they have what they need.
I was reading an article about how making a kid happy isn’t actually how to give them genuine happiness. Kids need to feel secure in order to be happy. How funny then, is the parent that bends over backwards to give their spoiled kid everything they want only to discover this same well stocked child has things missing developmentally that only boundaries can fill.
Boundaries, unfortunately, are free. That makes it hard for parents to quantify their love for their children if that’s how one chooses to measure it.
I’m hoping my kid will be grateful as a child but also well into adulthood.
Gratitude, after all, truly turns what you have into enough.
